Keynote Speaker · Chicago + Ann Arbor

Middy Matthews: Keynote Speaker - The 'Trained, Not Sold' Philosophy

Middy Matthews is a 30-year competitive athlete, a 12-year tennis teaching professional, and a top-producing realtor. She speaks to sales teams, leaders, students, and organizations on one idea, the professionals worth trusting do not sell you, they train you.

Trained, Not Sold. Middy Matthews, keynote speaker

What is Middy's core philosophy and how does it apply to every stage?

Most audiences have been sold to so badly, so often, that they would rather lose a deal than become the thing they hate. Middy's message flips the script, you do not sell, you train. You train your clients on what they are actually deciding. You train your network to understand the value you offer. You train yourself out of the scripts that never sounded like you in the first place.

Over time, the people you trained become the only pipeline you need. It is the same long game that builds athletes, careers measured in decades, not quarters.

The Story

What is Middy's three-decade experience in the arena?

Middy's athletic life began in her teens with tennis and never slowed down. She competed at the college level, then taught tennis for twelve years, including junior instruction and the summer camps where she first learned that coaching beats commanding.

Today she races competitive mountain bikes, with finishes at 24-hour adventure races, 18-hour mountain bike events, and 200-mile gravel races, many on a tandem. The long arc of that practice, sustained effort, smart recovery, real teammates, is the lived basis of her speaking work.

Inside her professional practice, Middy is a top-producing realtor at Arbor Move Real Estate, working both the Chicago and Ann Arbor markets, where she also trains new agents in their first year. Earlier in her career she worked in advertising and photography, and she has facilitated wellness workshops for healthcare and nonprofit audiences.

"The best coaches don't push you across the finish line. They build the athlete who gets there on her own."
Middy Matthews

Tennis / Teaching

College competitor, then twelve years as a teaching professional, junior instruction, and summer camps.

Endurance / Racing

24-hour adventure races, 18-hour MTB events, 200-mile gravel, often on a tandem where teamwork is non-negotiable.

Real Estate / Sales

12+ years as a top producer across residential, luxury, and commercial, with a specialty in first-time homebuyers.

Creative / Community

A background in advertising and photography, a sponsor of regional bike races, and a regular in grassroots civic work.

Signature talks.

Four keynotes, one architecture. Each talk is tailored to the room, with timed session flows, workshop add-ons, and takeaways the audience can use Monday morning.

Sales · Real Estate · Entrepreneurs

Trained, Not Sold.

A sales philosophy for people who hate the word "sales"

The flagship keynote. How to stop chasing, convincing, and closing, and start training your clients, your network, and yourself, so the right people find you first. Includes a practical script audit and a five-year view of what a Trained, Not Sold practice produces.

Keynote 45–60 min · Workshop up to 2 hrs
Leadership · Management · Women in Leadership

Coached, Not Bossed.

Lead like the best coach they ever had

What twelve years of teaching tennis and a decade of training new agents reveal about leading people. The difference between managing tasks and coaching humans, and a framework for feedback, standards, and trust that builds teams who perform when you are not in the room.

Keynote 45–90 min · Leadership track sessions
Students · Youth · Student Athletes

Find Your Lane.

A keynote for the next generation

For ninth graders, student athletes, and young leaders. The race is long, and the fastest start does not win it. Lessons from junior tennis camps to 200-mile gravel races on picking your lane, ignoring the noise in the other lanes, and showing up again tomorrow.

Keynote 45–60 min · School assemblies & banquets
Wellness · Healthcare · Corporate Teams

Habits, Not Hacks.

Think like an athlete, last like one

Thirty years of competitive athletics with no off-season for burnout. Sustained effort, smart recovery, and the habits that keep high performers in the game for decades. Honest about scope, this is lived athletic practice, not clinical advice, and audiences trust it because of that.

Keynote 45–60 min · Wellness hours & half-days

Who She Speaks To

How does Middy maintain the same standard for every speaking engagement?

From conference main stages to intimate all-staff gatherings, Middy tailors every session to the room, with honest credential framing and zero recycled content.

Real Estate Conferences Sales Teams & Brokerages Women in Leadership Young Leadership Conventions Schools & Student Athletes Healthcare Professionals Corporate All-Staff Events Credit Unions Hospitality & Front-Line Teams Cycling & Athletic Communities Nonprofits & Civic Groups
30
Years a Competitive Athlete
12
Years Teaching Tennis
12+
Years a Top Producer
200
Mile Races, Finished

Bring Middy to your stage.

Based in Chicago, speaking everywhere. Reach out with your event date, audience, and theme, and Middy will respond with a tailored session proposal.

Keynotes45–90 minutes
WorkshopsUp to 2 hours
TrainingsHalf-day formats
PanelsModeration & guest

Frequently Asked Questions

1 What topics does Middy Matthews cover in her keynote speeches?

Middy Matthews speaks on sales mindset, leadership, team culture, endurance, positioning, the long career arc, coaching, habits, youth & student athletes, and resilience. Her central philosophy, "Trained, Not Sold," underpins these topics, focusing on training clients and networks rather than traditional selling.

2 What is the "Trained, Not Sold" philosophy?

The "Trained, Not Sold" philosophy posits that true professionals train their clients on what they are deciding, train their network to understand value, and train themselves out of inauthentic scripts. This approach builds long-term relationships and pipelines through education and trust, mirroring the sustained effort seen in athletic careers.

3 How does Middy Matthews' athletic background relate to her speaking topics?

Middy's three decades as a competitive athlete, including college tennis, teaching, and endurance racing, form the lived basis of her speaking work. This experience informs her talks on sustained effort, smart recovery, real teammates, resilience, and the long career arc, applying athletic principles to professional development.

4 Can Middy Matthews' talks be customized for specific audiences?

Yes, Middy Matthews' signature talks are designed with a core architecture but are tailored to the specific room and audience. They can include timed session flows, workshop add-ons, and practical takeaways for the audience to use, ensuring relevance and impact.